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Mommy Friends / Old Age at 20

I’m 20 and feel like an old lady! Many of my closest friends are now mothers. Kay with her 1 year old daughter Emma, Kris with her 1 year old son, and Dahlia and Heaven with their new born daughters. I can’t even imagine being them. I can’t imagine how aged THEY feel! And we’re all about the same age as each other.

I go to school early, have a short break, then work all night, then have to come home and worry about cleaning and taking care of the animals and MAYBE if I’m lucky I can get some me time (never happens by the way). I can’t imagine adding children into the mix! Already I feel stressed and my body hurts all over and I can’t get enough sleep, but let me tell you, my mommy friends are troopers.

Now the worst part on both ends with Mommy Friends, is you basically have no friends. When you’re a mommy, your whole life is your children, completely understandable and a lot of what it should be. But that leaves barely enough time for yourself, let alone other people. Now that sucks on my end because these four girls are pretty close to me and I barely see any of them anymore (let alone get to have a decent adult or girlfriend conversation)! My only three girlfriends left that aren’t mommy’s are Alexis, who is about 2 hours away at a private college most of the year, Courtney who actually works with me but who I still somehow hardly see/hang out with because we both seem to be busy every chance we have, and Ashley who I’ve recently become very close with.

Now when all your friends become mommys, you can say bye bye to sleep overs (but normally with girls you’re never too old for sleepovers). The closest thing you’ll get to a sleepover is a couple hours late at night together before going home to your own homes. And if you do have a sleep over, count on the little one being there (which I actually do love by the way). So all that girl time you used to have, doesn’t happen very much, and when it does it’s a lot shorter amount of time than you used to do. And well, that blows! Because as much as I love my man, my cats, my puppy, and my fish, sometimes a girl needs to do girly shit with her girlfriends. I’m not a VERY girly person but when I’m deprived girl time for months on end, it becomes more of a need than a want. And especially when all of us are very stressed, we need each other to lean on and that becomes more and more difficult to do.

So here were are, 19, 20, and 21 year olds, who all grew up before their time. You’ll hardly see us drink. Never at a club. Maybe a hookah bar once a year. You won’t see us cruising around at 3am anymore, looking for crazy shit to do. No more ghosts in the graveyard or fires by the river on summer nights. Nope. Our fun time is maybe getting a relaxing bath into our busy schedules. Or a nice trip to Adventureland on a weekend, and even then we used to spend all day there, and now we ride five rides, swim, then go home. And when we do get some time together, the craziest thing we’ll do is probably only talk about all our crazy memories in our high school years. And maybe that’s okay.

When I’m with one of my girls we’re able to be ourselves. We’re able to laugh and update each other on everything that’s happened like we were never apart from each other at all. We’re able to lie in bed together, half naked, watching chick flicks and feel completely comfortable. And it’s not often you have friends like that. So even though I don’t get to see or talk to them as often as I want, I think I’d choose my grown up life with my big girl friends than be drinking my weekends away. I’d rather have the girls I’m close to by my side every now and then, than to be surrounded by fake people who are constantly around when they need something not because they actually enjoy being around you.

Sometimes I look at other people my age and really get hurt thinking I’m missing out on so much. But then I remember that “Hey! I have an amazing job that I love. I pay all my bills in full and on time. I’m not in debt. I don’t need to beg my family for money. I have my own car, my own place, food in my fridge. I can provide well for myself, and for my fur babies. I go to school in the mornings and am excelling in all my classes. I get to come home at night to a clean home and be able to sleep next to the man I love. I spend my weekends with my family. And yeah, it may all be a ball of stress sometimes, but would I really want to have it any other way?” No, I wouldn’t. So maybe some people may think I’m missing out, hell, even sometimes I wonder that myself. But I have people who understand that growing up young and feeling old may just be a lot better than spending my youth in other ways.

To Do Lists

I am a huge list maker! My purse includes a financial planner, daily/monthly planner, and many many lists. I can’t stand not being organized! So for today’s to do list, there seems to be about 100 million things that need done! My schedule is crazy. I’m in school from 9am-12pm and work 1:30pm-10pm, plus they’ve been needing overtime at work so I don’t get much time to do much. Earlier today I accomplished two episodes of the new Supernatural season, and laundry. So I’m definitely needing to get my butt in gear :p I’ll share my list with for tonight after work:

Get the second disc of Supernatural.
Homework.
Take the moving trash out and move it to the curb for tomorrow.
Put laundry away (two loads).
Do dishes (after dinner of course).
Clean litterbox/make sure all animals are fed/watered/brushed/taken out.
Unpack the rest of the boxes/Organize.
Figure out what’s left to buy for the home.
Pay bills online.
Go get groceries.
Figure out financial planning for next check.
Get the rental agreement signed and returned.
Get the fuck up for school.

All small things, but still hard to do all in a short time before sleeping and having to wake up early again the next morning.

ALS Ice Bucket Challange

So I’ve done the Ice Bucket Challenge TWICE now! Let me start by saying this cause is something that is very important to me. It’s close and personal to me by someone I care about dearly and I am so happy that it has gotten all the attention it very well deserves. It is a HORRIBLE disease and I honestly couldn’t imagine a worse way to die. So thank you to everyone who has participated and raised awareness and to all of those who have donated. It really is worth all the attention it’s gotten!

My first time was for work! Our client challenged all of us representatives and offered to donate $20 on behalf of each person who did it. Gosh, I love my job ❤ Well we ended up raising $300! I was the photographer for most of the shots on the video as we agreed to do pictures instead of videotaping each individual, but our building manager took the shot of me and it’s one of the only ones that doesn’t show right as it’s getting dumped! But I must say my facial expression is pretty great. I’ll also add that this was our supervisors last day so that’s why most of us are in everyday attire and I’m wearing a crazy outfit :p That’s what they get when they tell us we can wear whatever we want 😉

My second time (video to be posted later) was out on the farm with my mama video taping and my boyfriend Chase having the pleasure of dumping it on me :p I was nominated for this one by Chase, my best friend Kay, and my good friend Heaven (: I in turn nominated my best friends Alexis and Courtney as well as my mom. And later on I nominated many of Chase’s family and friends to do it too! So I hope you enjoy these and it’s such a great cause to be a part of so I hope everyone participates! (:

 

Moving Time

Time to move! Only my 7th time in 2 years….  We’re moving from the farm back into town now. A really nice place for about $640 a month, with basically three bedrooms and all utilities paid. Moving day begins tomorrow! We’re renting a U Haul (for far more than it’s worth!) and hoping to get all things in the new place by night tomorrow.  I have no clue what to do with so much space! The kitchen is huge, so we’re getting a dining room table to help fill it. There’s a nice side pantry off from the kitchen, a living area right off from the stairs, a tiled bedroom and closet next to the living area, a hall closet, a huge master bedroom (carpeted), a small bathroom, and a carpeted room and closet. I think we’ll probably make the carpeted room into our work out room and maybe the tiled room into a work space/office area. I’m really excited about this place but I’m definitely going to be missing the farm. How the sun shines on the corm and grass midday. Hanging the clothes on the clothes line to dry. Being able to let Crash run around freely and spend time with all the many outdoor animals. It’s so beautiful and peaceful out there. Many places have owned my heart but that is always home no matter what. The stars at night are just completely breathtaking… But the good news is that this place is a lot closer to work and school so during my short breaks I’ll actually be able to go home and relax for a bit instead of trying to find something else to do as to not drive 16 miles out of town to go home. Let the packing be finished and the moving and unpacking begin. (: